“Let’s Just Say I Had a Great Evening”

Loving the Cubs... and other problems I have Mark Grissom beaverdamusa.comI had a very nice dinner tonight…with a very nice young lady.

We talked about a lot of things. We talked about religion, work, and music…but mostly we talked about work.

I will not give her name or where she works. Although I am aware of the fact that most of you would LOVE to know that information.

Let’s just say…I had a great evening.

We found ourselves talking mostly about Alzheimer’s and the effect it has on the patient and the families. Many of my stories about my mom crossed-over into her stories about her patients.

She is a registered nurse and deals a lot with Alzheimer’s patients and the family members of those patients. As most of you already know, I lost my mom to Alzheimer’s December 14, 2010.

I miss her every single day of my life.

I do not want this blog to be about my mom…or her death. It makes me sad to talk about that. And…I have written a lot about her in the past.

No. This will be about “my date”.

I have been divorced for 3 and half years. I have been on many dates with different girls. Enjoyed most all of them. I have had, what I would call, two serious relationships since the break-up of my marriage.

I find it easier to talk about my divorce now than ever before.  I wish my ex-wife no ill will whatsoever. I wish her only the best in life. She is engaged to be married. I am happy for her.

Now…back to my date.

Lets just call this girl “J”.

“J” and I have a lot in common. We have the same beliefs in our faith. We both have a very strong work ethic and we are on-call most of the time. We enjoy eating out at nice restaurants. We both love to laugh. And, we both love all kinds of music.

Not a bad start for our first date.

But the one thing that attracts me to “J” more than anything…(besides the fact she is a beautiful person) is her love for the Alzheimer’s families.

She works with them on a daily basis. She knows all about the struggles of the patient…and the family members involved. She talked a lot about how she works so hard to make the patients “comfortable” and “at ease.” She works with them to help them maintain a daily routine and schedule that works for their individual needs. She keeps their families informed of everything going on in their lives and what the next step is for the patient.

She is incredible at what she does.

I tip my hat to “J” and to every single person in the medical field that works with Alzheimer’s patients. Their job is NOT easy at all! These patients can be very combative at times, say things that they never would have said before the onset of Alzheimer’s and just downright be mean and hateful.

However, they can also be very, very sweet and kind and if you catch them on a good day…they will carry on a conversation with you that will make you wonder is there anything even wrong with them.

I know all this. The reason why I know?…my mom had Alzheimer’s disease.

I say a great big “GOD BLESS YOU” to doctors, nurses, CNA’s, rehab specialist, LPN’s, hospice personnel and most of all…a great big thank you to the spouses and family members of Alzheimer’s patients.

I have no idea how my father was able to care for my mother as long as he did. He took care of her for many years, 7 days a week, 24 hours a day. He never left her side. Even after we put mom in a nursing home facility, Dad was there every single day to care for her, feed her, change the linens on her bed and to the amazement of the staff of Signature Healthcare…even washed and dried her hair.

God Bless You, Dad. And May God Bless all of the individuals in this world who care for not only Alzheimer’s patients…but for all the long term care patients.

My mom never had the opportunity to meet “J”. I sure wished she had. She would have loved her. And “J” would have taken incredible care of my mom.

If you want to know what comes of “J”…you will have to hang around for future blogs.

Until next time…

About Mark Grissom

Mark was born on the north side of Chicago in 1964. Raised a Cubs fan by his dad, he never had a chance in life. He moved to Cleveland, Tennessee, in 1988. While he lives closer to Atlanta now, he will never be able to leave the religion of "Cubbie Nation." Baptized as a Cubs fan at the age of five, he has no choice but to live the remainder of his life here on earth in mediocrity at its best!


  1. Mark, about your mom … you will think of her every day for the rest of your life. You will do the same with your dad when he is no longer with us … physically. But here’s the comfort: In time, those thoughts of your mom will no longer bring sadness. Instead, they will give you only happiness because you will have reached a time in your life that allows you to smile at all the crazy and wonderful and joyous times the two of you enjoyed. Time heals the heart, my friend, and it warms the memories. As for “J,” she sounds incredible. Take care …

  2. Susan Elliott says:

    I am so happy for you! I knew you would find that special someone. Please do let us all know how it turns out! You are a great person and only deserve the very best! God bless!

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