Committed to Not Being Committed valentine's day candy heart singleI will be the first to admit… I am terrible when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex.

They say the first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem. There! I just admitted… I have a problem!

Or do I?

Webster’s definition of dating is: “the series of social engagements shared by a couple looking to get married.”


I have been back on the “single scene” now for about 3 years. I have gone on several dates. I have always had a good time. But I am in no way ready to get married!

I very much enjoy the companionship of a lady. I enjoy having someone to go out to eat with once in a while. I enjoy having someone to go to the movies with once in a while. I would love to have someone to sit with me in church.  The weather is about to get much prettier, and I would enjoy having someone to ride with me on my Harley.

But I am in NO WAY ready to tackle that marriage thing again. At least not right now.

I witnessed an incredible marriage. I witnessed two people who loved each other very much for 52 devoted years. I witnessed two people that may have had some arguments once in a while, but always made up real quick and had an awesome relationship together. Those two people were my mom, (God rest her soul), and my dad.

I have “self-diagnosed” myself as being way too independent to want to be in a committed relationship. I enjoy my freedom. I work a lot. I am very dedicated to my work and I love what I do. That does not leave me with much time to date a lot.

I have always sort of been a “NOMAD”

Webster’s defines a NOMAD as… “a person who roams without a fixed route or destination.” I may not be that bad off… but close to it!

I have come to the place in my life where I am comfortable being alone. That may, or may not, come as a shock to you. But I have decided it is better to be alone and to be happy than to have someone and … well, you know.

I have several friends around my age who are single. They seem to have no problem finding dates and going out and having a good time. Sometimes I envy them, and other times I am content to stay home, grab a bag of popcorn and watch a good movie on television.

If things change for the “social scene” and me, I will certainly keep you up to speed! One never knows what life has to offer you. I guess that is the joy of living. Take it one day at a time… and just see what happens.

And for all of you readers who are dating, in a steady relationship, engaged or married… Happy Valentine’s Day to you!

Until next time…

Go Cubs!

About Mark Grissom

Mark was born on the north side of Chicago in 1964. Raised a Cubs fan by his dad, he never had a chance in life. He moved to Cleveland, Tennessee, in 1988. While he lives closer to Atlanta now, he will never be able to leave the religion of "Cubbie Nation." Baptized as a Cubs fan at the age of five, he has no choice but to live the remainder of his life here on earth in mediocrity at its best!

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