Committed to Not Being Committed valentine's day candy heart singleI will be the first to admit… I am terrible when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex.

They say the first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem. There! I just admitted… I have a problem!

Or do I?

Webster’s definition of dating is: “the series of social engagements shared by a couple looking to get married.”


I have been back on the “single scene” now for about 3 years. I have gone on several dates. I have always had a good time. But I am in no way ready to get married!

I very much enjoy the companionship of a lady. I enjoy having someone to go out to eat with once in a while. I enjoy having someone to go to the movies with once in a while. I would love to have someone to sit with me in church.  The weather is about to get much prettier, and I would enjoy having someone to ride with me on my Harley.

But I am in NO WAY ready to tackle that marriage thing again. At least not right now.

I witnessed an incredible marriage. I witnessed two people who loved each other very much for 52 devoted years. I witnessed two people that may have had some arguments once in a while, but always made up real quick and had an awesome relationship together. Those two people were my mom, (God rest her soul), and my dad.

I have “self-diagnosed” myself as being way too independent to want to be in a committed relationship. I enjoy my freedom. I work a lot. I am very dedicated to my work and I love what I do. That does not leave me with much time to date a lot.

I have always sort of been a “NOMAD”

Webster’s defines a NOMAD as… “a person who roams without a fixed route or destination.” I may not be that bad off… but close to it!

I have come to the place in my life where I am comfortable being alone. That may, or may not, come as a shock to you. But I have decided it is better to be alone and to be happy than to have someone and … well, you know.

I have several friends around my age who are single. They seem to have no problem finding dates and going out and having a good time. Sometimes I envy them, and other times I am content to stay home, grab a bag of popcorn and watch a good movie on television.

If things change for the “social scene” and me, I will certainly keep you up to speed! One never knows what life has to offer you. I guess that is the joy of living. Take it one day at a time… and just see what happens.

And for all of you readers who are dating, in a steady relationship, engaged or married… Happy Valentine’s Day to you!

Until next time…

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